we need a list?

we are so close to inviting people... the wedding website is done and we're just doing some final gathering of contact info before we send everything out.... the paper invites should be ready in a few weeks or so.

a sneak preview:

and so comes the next big wedding to do item... the guest list. we started a basic list back in august when we first began planning. just listing out our family members, we quickly realized we have many people in our life we wish to celebrate this event with us. heck, just our immediate family alone (parents, siblings and their spouses) our grand total was already at 16! never mind aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends!!!

we are very lucky in that both of our families have very much let us plan our wedding the way we want too. we haven't once heard - well you should be inviting this or that person or - doing this or that, and for this we are oh so grateful. thank you thank you!

though we of course welcome suggestions...

but, guest list making does start to feel like you are playing a game, trying to organize and fit the right people in with the right plan.

heading south for a destination wedding makes these hard decisions MUCH easier. we've pretty much made it an open invite - wanna come south? awesome. we'd love to have you join us... we both agreed we refused to stress over this list - well. as little stressing as possible.

that said, we of course do not want to exlude anyone. we would hate to hurt anyones feelings. and we do need an invite of some type to send out to the guests we really do want to come. and so the list was pulled out again.

i think our biggest concern is - have we forgotten anyone?

we do expect to accidentally miss someone. not intentionally of course - we hope no one takes offence to an empty inbox/mailbox. is it breaking wedding etiquette to say "we didn't invite you yet? whoops. sorry - we should have!" or... "didn't realize you'd want to join us, but i'm happy you are - here is the info... "
i think i'll have to work on these...

after all this -  it's almost like we have a reverse wedding guest list. as we hear back from people that want to come with us to jamaica, the real wedding guest list gets composed. march 10th (the deadline for deposits) will be like christmas morning when we get to the see the group that will be joining us - and we can't wait!!!